Letting go of your Children
Letting go of your Children
I struggle with letting go when it comes to my children. I love them so much and want them to be happy but I don’t know how to let them be themselves. If you are wanting to change the way you see something in your life then change your perception of what you are seeing. Everyone wants their children to be safe and happy, right? Well ask yourself what it is that you want them to be safe from. Are you wanting them to be safe from life, safe from hurting themselves, safe from the unknown. What is it that you truly want for your children that will teach them to live for themselves so they can have their own experiences and learn their own lessons? We all came her to live. There are no mistakes unless you believe in mistakes. Nothing ever happens to someone that is a mistake. If a child falls and gets hurt, that is something the child needed to go through. This goes for any experience a child or human being goes through. If you can understand that when a parent tries to protect a child from hurt experiences the parent is not allowing the child to live for themselves. The parent is actually keeping the child from experiencing the life they came here to experience. The parent is coming from their own pain when they try to shield their child from painful experiences. Children do not always choose the same experiences that the parents have gone through. They are here to have their own experiences. The fear that you hold inside yourself that keeps you from allowing them to live their lives the way they choose is blocking yourself as much as it is your children. When a parent sends their child off to begin their day and says “Be Careful”. The parent is actually instilling fear into the child. When you say be careful to your child the child feels the emotion of fear. Do you want your child to be afraid of life? Life is a wonderful experience if you choose to see it that way. Even with the good and bad. But the bad is only bad if you choose to see it as bad. If you can look at the bad experiences as just experiences they need to go through it may take away some of your fear that you hold for your children. It is all in how you see life. How you see it is how you will experience it.How you see it will determine how you instill fear or confidence in your children. See life as an experience and your children will become confident. See life as something you need protection from and your children will learn fear. Look back at your life with all the things that went wrong or that you experienced pain from and ask yourself if you would change those experiences. Most of you will see that from those painful experiences you learned a great deal and you would not change them. Why do you want to deny your own children that same experience? Allow your children to have their own experiences without judging what is happening to them. It is all in how you choose to see life that creates your experiences for yourself. See your life as a struggle, painful and ugly place and that is what you will experience. See your life as beautiful, rewarding and safe and that is what you will experience.